Wednesday, March 8, 2017

What Women Want

When I got the invitation from Granary to sip cocktails and chat, all I could think about was, I hope they have mimosas.

Because aren't we taught to want the superfluous and shallow? It's bags before businesses, children not careers, diamonds for your dreams. Get a higher education, excel in an extracurricular, check all the boxes and have a good marriage, for only a lady may have a gentleman.

Personally, I'm not a career type. It's a ladder I have no interest in climbing. I would have been content being the perfect wife or out exploring the world, living wild and free. But women have been trying to liberate one another, fighting under the colors of feminism. They whisper ideas into the heads of other girls: You are more than this! Don't reduce yourself to a shell. The world is as much yours as it belongs to men. 

But sometimes, this is all we ever want.

Not having world-changing ambitions does not make you less of a woman and you don't need power to be confident.

What anyone ever wants is a choice.

Other women might want more, and there's nothing wrong with that. They want to stand beside men and carry the same load? Respect. But shouldn't the same respect be extended to housewives or girls who want nothing more? I have always believed that men are naturally more adept at certain things and women at others.

There is a quote that comes to mind every time someone tells me about rights: Women weren't created to do what men can do, they were created to do what men can't.

At first glance it seems almost to put women on a pedestal, that only these beautiful creatures are able to accomplish what mankind cannot. But flip it around and you realize that it is neither complimentary nor words to live by for the same can be said about men: Men weren't created to do what women can do, they were created to do what women can't. Aside from inciting wrath, just imagine the humiliation stay-at-home dads are forced to feel, or any man who is in a 'feminine' position at work because of what that simple sentence conveys.

Not having world-changing ambitions does not make you less of a man and you don't need power to be confident.

But women, we don't need to carry a 50KG burden when our bodies are more comfortable with 20. If you're going to sprout nonsense about how women should have equal pay and the right to vote, it is not the middle ages anymore. Women are now running for elections and whether you are male or female, as long as you've got what it takes - you will come out on top.

Take this video for instance.

In a time where feminism was unheard of, when women didn't need to hold rallies to exert control. Just be and you are. If you're not going to stand up for yourself, don't wait for someone else to. Feminism is a line blurred between equal opportunities and being opportunistic. Perhaps I am lacking in my understanding of what it stands for, but I see it as an inch for a mile and in a way, being oppressive to the very gender they are trying to free.

I guess we'll find out what the rest have to say this weekend at the Granary. And don't be afraid to leave what you feel in the comments. Always happy to hear a different perspective. If you think I'm horribly misinformed please, tell me.

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